This is so true. I live for my husband's smiles. No matter how bad the situation is, if he smiles at me, I relax. He has learned this truth. If he wants control of a situation, then smile. I am far more likely to give him control of a situation if he smiles and I 'feel' that he has everything in hand, than if he gets angry or starts arguing with me.
A smile is an emotional way to tell a woman that everything is all right, you are in control, and you don't see why everyone else is upset.
Males Take Note: Singing is the Way to a Partner's Heart
You're a warm-blooded male, you're desperate to find someone special and you reckon you've tried everything? Well here's a tip from the experts: try singing.
Australian scientists have found that bursting into song is a sure-fire way to attract the attention of passing females.
But before you try it in public, a word of caution. The researchers were working in the Pacific Ocean. And they were studying humpback whales.
The marine biologists found that male humpbacks who sing while migrating to their summer feeding grounds attract more mates than their silent companions.
They even discovered that the male singers slow down when they are swimming to make sure their songs are heard by as many females as possible.
Whale songs are among the most complex sounds made by any animal, and can be heard underwater at a distance of more than 15 kilometres.
Song selection is important here though. We have no way of determining the song list of the average whale so they're no help, but you should be thoughful when deciding on the tune you're planning on belting out.
So, the next time you're out on a date, the conversation drops a little, you're thinking to yourself "What can I do here...?", launch into song.
Pick the mood right and it could be a great success - assuming of course you can sing. If it doesn't go well, picture what happens late at night in your average karaoke bar. Not a good thing on your first date.
You'll never look back...but a few others in the restaurant might.
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Friday, March 21, 2008
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How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part Three
What are emotions? Why do they control us? Why do they ruin our futures?
I think emotions are nothing more than memories. They are memories that we want vengeance for. As my mother said 'we were determined to get our pound of flesh.' These memories do not care who we make pay for the crimes done to us - they just want retribution.
Even if we get it, that doesn't make the memory go away, so later, we continue the vicious cycle, again, and again...
How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part Three
This is the third phase of your worthwhile series on "mending fast from a broken emotional past." The quickest and most effective way to move from one stage to the next in life and love is through a personal spiritual awakening or practical enlightenment, which you can incorporate and use in your everyday life.
There is nothing more refreshing than an internal spiritual renewal. In this state, old memories and emotionally-unhealthy experiences will be tossed away and your total being shall be transformed. With this kind of personal revival you will definitely have an enjoyable survival in your life and love relationship. You will no longer be held captive by any emotional disturbances and circumstances which once had you drifting along in life, taking whatever was dished out to you. This is so powerful that you will become the writer, the director, and the producer of your own life's script. You shall pick and choose (or refuse), whom you will allow (or block from entering) into your heart and into your personal environment.
Isn't this amazing? Spiritual renewal is personal power! Personal power allows us to choose without being confused. No longer will you have to wait around for the telephone to ring, wondering, When is he going to call? Nor will you have to feel stuck in a miserable, drawn-out, tug-of-war relationship, pondering, "Will he ever stop cheating?"
You won't fall for any of the lies and false pledges of players who make promises such as "Honey, you light up my life; I want to buy you the Sun, the Moon, and the stars," when actually they can't afford to even
buy you a light bulb.
No; not anymore. You'll tell the unworthy lover boys, "The Lord is my light and my salvation. I am a new creation, and I have no time to join you in careless recreation. I am now ready for my very own healthy love relationship with my exclusive soul mate-a real and decent man-and since you are not ready to make a sincere and honest commitment, you're not the one, and I will no longer let you occupy time in my personal space because your presence is blocking my blessings."
Whew! What a mouthful. To keep it simple: It's time to drop the dead weight date, and get yourself a heavyweight mate. You go girl!
Let's get you spiritually recharged through a delightful four-fold process of Dedication, Meditation, Visualization, and Affirmation:
1. Dedication is perpetual prayer, praise and worship. It's thanking God for everything (and even in advance); for your life, family, abundant blessings, joy, and your specially selected husband. And above all, for making you such a beautiful, brilliant, delightful, and dynamic treasure.
2. Meditation is deep relaxed thinking. In this state you are at peace with yourself and can think clearly about exactly what you want in your life. When you meditate, set aside some personal time to find a private space where you won't be disturbed by daily chaos. Get comfortable, either sitting or lying down, and enjoy the peaceful calmness in your spirit. Think about the people, places, and things that bring you joy, and the new experiences you'd like to explore. Be at ease in your body temple, and enjoy your pleasant thoughts.
3. Visualization is using your imagination to form a picture of what you want to achieve. It can be described as "organized daydreaming." We create random images in our minds when we daydream, but in visualization, we tailor these images in our specific desires. For example, if you want a new car, picture yourself sitting in it and driving it. If you want a healthy relationship, picture yourself being happily in love. I must warn you here that you cannot use this as a kind of mind control to get a certain man to fall in love with you. It won't work. All human beings have the gift of free will (or free moral faculty) from God. So no one can spiritually control another person's mind against their will (nor should he or she want to). What will work, however, is if you visualize yourself in a loving, fun, and peaceful relationship (and environment), with a terrific feeling of healthy love flowing all through your entire being.
4. Affirmation is creating reality through the spoken word. You can use it to program new behavior, relationships, friendships, and just about everything into your life. This technique is so powerful that ancient wisdom urges, "Be careful what you ask for [affirm]; you might just get it [you will if you believe]." Here's a tip that will help you affirm healthy love into your life quickly: Don't affirm in the future tense, "I will be happy" or "I will be loved." Instead, boldly declare in the present tense, "I am now happy," and "I am now loved."
Always affirm with deep conviction, absolute intensity, and feeling. Be careful not to just reel your declarations off your tongue, or merely recite them. Believe what you're stating with all your heart. This is not just a hope, want, or wish, it is real. If you truly believe, you will certainly receive.
If you've completed all three phases of this relationship series, you now have the "insider's secret" and formula for turning around your life and love relationship for the better. First, take the time to restore and pamper the true essence of who you are, and when you're ready, be sure to embrace the sacred healthy love relationship you deserve. Why settle for less when you deserve the best?
An award-winning, bestselling author of ten books, she is the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
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Couple Relationship Secret - 2 Ideas for Romancing your Partner
The most heart breaking time of my life was the first few months after I married. My first husband did all the right things. He courted me, bought me gifts, talked to me. Then, after the marriage, he treated me like a house servant. In his defense, he was only acting the way his father taught him to. He married a wife so he had someone to clean his house.
The second time I married, I made sure that the person I married knew that I was not a house servant, and that I expected the romance to continue. This was not a fail safe, but it did set the ground for future growth.
After some rough spots, we learned that romance was not an imposition, it was fun. We are still dating, and teaching our son how to continue the romance after he marries.
Couple Relationship Secret - 2 Ideas for Romancing your Partner
When you meet that special someone, the first 6 six months is super hot and heavy. You simply can't wait to see or talk to your new lover. Sex is happening as much as you possibly can. You're still learning about each other, every date is a learning experience about the other person.
Romance that seems to be effortless during the beginning of a couple's relationship is now fading over time. This is natural as a couple becomes more familiar with each other, they are making less effort to romance each other. When this happens it is time for the couple to start making a conscious effort to recharge their romance, and hence their relationship as well.
Here are few ways to recharge your Romance and to enhance your relationship:
Remember your first date with your partner, the amount of effort you had put in, to prepare for it. The excitement you had in anticipation of your hot date with this person. Now you can plan a date with your partner to recreate your first date together all over again. Go to the same restaurant, and order the same food you did for your first date. Also, don't forget to put in the same effort you had to prepare for your first date. This definitely will recharge your romance, and will bring excitement into your relationship that was like it was in the beginning.
Tell your partner, "I love you". Make this a daily habit if possible. Although you may think that they know you love them, no one has ever tired of hearing being told "I love you" in a healthy romantic relationship. Those 3 little words simply melt hearts.
And now I would like to invite you to read the complete article for more ideas on How To Add Romance Into Your Relationship With Your Partner!
Eugene Cheung is a coach, author and speaker. His enjoys writing about joy and happiness, law of attraction, personal development and internet marketing. More articles at www.InLoveTogether.com
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Thursday, March 20, 2008
When your Partner Doesn’t Talk
Why do women need to hear men talk? Easy, because women are social. But, men do not need to 'take it.' My husband has times when I can bug him and talk. He also set a timme limit. I can talk about anything I want, and he will listen, for 1 hour, before 10PM. This means he turns the television off and looks at me.
Now, this is a win-win situation. I no longer wake him up crying at night, something that makes him frustrated and angry - because he can't fix it. He also doesn't have me become so frustrated that I wake him at 3am to talk for 3 hours.
I get my chance to let it out - when he is not frustrated. I have learned that this is a gift he gives me, so I try to keep it short, and I try not to talk for more than once a week. I also make sure I don't interrupt a sports event.
When your Partner Doesn’t Talk'
In cafés, restaurants and at the water cooler women complain that men don’t talk about their feelings. Admittedly, this is a stereotype.. Some women don’t talk and some men do. In any case, what do you do when your partner doesn’t talk?
Some of the most difficult things to talk about are problems in your relationship. Some people argue that they feel uncomfortable talking about relationship issues or that their parents didn’t handle conflict well so they didn’t learn how. Often people dislike talking about problems because they fear it will lead to an unproductive argument.
In this case, it can be helpful to have some guidelines for problem-solving. Most people (even conflict-avoiders) are willing to engage in discussion if they feel there’s a good chance the issue can be resolved. I call this “productive arguing.”
You can start to improve your communication by establishing some “rules of engagement”. Select a time when you’re getting along well and you’re both in a good mood. Sit down together and talk about the ways that you would like to improve your communication. Stay away from blame and don’t point out your partner’s past mistakes. Instead, focus on how you want your communication to be different in the future. Some examples might be “Listen without interrupting”, “Talk for no more than one minute”, “Offer solutions” and “If you don’t like the other person’s suggestion, offer one of your own.”
In the beginning stages, it’s important to know how to de-escalate an argument. The best way is to separate when things start to heat up. Then agree that you will meet again within twenty-four hours to discuss it again. If the discussion deteriorates the second time, you may want to consider couples therapy. It can be helpful to have a neutral third party who can create a safe environment where you and your partner can begin to learn to resolve problems more effectively.
Most important, don’t be discouraged. Communication problems can feel overwhelming. In my experience, however, these problems are usually resolved with the help of a skilled couples therapist.
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Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Some Useful Tips for a Successful Relationship
Some Useful Tips for a Successful Relationship
Many people are using online dating as an alternative to meeting new people, people we would never have met had it not been for online dating. The idea of finding an activity partner, soul-mate, or a pen pal is somewhat new to us. However, thousands of people have had success at finding a partner through the use of an online dating site. But how can you guarantee the success of your newly found relationship?
In this article we will give you some useful tips you can follow to improve the longevity of your relationship.
You should date slowly.
All too often many singles get caught up in the heat of the moment and they tend to move a bit faster than they should. Recent studies have proven that singles who date for at least two years before getting married have a significantly better chance of their marriage being successful.
Dating slowly can be difficult. Physical attraction and lust can force couples into a serious relationship before they are emotionally ready for it.
There are many older singles who tend to move faster during a relationship because they believe moving slowly is wasting time. However, it's better to be single than it is to be in an unhappy relationship. You should take things slowly if you are seeking a serious long term relationship.
You should have realistic expectations.
We have all been influenced by the media in some way or another sometimes we may have unrealistic expectations about our relationships. Life can be a complicated and stressful experience, having a good relationship with your partner will not make life easier.
You should always date to please yourself.
We have all been taught that we should not be selfish however, when it comes down to whom you should date the rules may be different. Being selfish is crucial when choosing a relationship partner. If your parents and friends approve of your partner it's great. However, if they do not approve the final decision is yours.
You should date with a purpose.
We all have positive and negative things about us and our personality however, serious personality imperfections deserve special attention. If you are considering a long term relationship with someone you are dating you need to face the facts which has been responsible for many unsuccessful marriages.
If you have been struggling with personal problems while you are dating, they will not go away after you are married, sometimes they get worse.
The belief that problems such as drug dependency, alcoholism, and physical abuse will magically resolve on their own is wishful thinking. It's best to deal with these problems early on in the relationship. If the person is unwilling or unable to change, you should end the relationship and move on.
These are a few tips you can use to ensure the success of your relationship. Dating slowly and creating a solid foundation is the key to success and longevity in any relationship.
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Tuesday, March 18, 2008
How To Win a Woman's Love
I once talked to a famous marriage therapist who said that 'once a woman decides to leave, there is no winning her back.' He didn't say this to disparage women, but to remind men that women do not forgive indefinitely. They do have limits.
Women were forgiving, but they won't be treated like a door mat forever. The time to 'save your marriage' is long before you find how far she will let you push her.
My new husband puts it this way 'you can either give your wife your time now, or your money later.'
How To Get Your Girlfriend Back: Shocking Truth
In this article, we're going to talk about the common mistakes most all men make when trying to get their girlfriend back. Pay close attention because you're probably doing at least some of these things without even knowing it. If you want her back bad enough, you'll read on.
1. Telling her you love her over and over again.
Don't act like a little puppy dog and beg for her back. She'll just lose respect for you and you'll only end up pushing her further away from you than she already is. A lot of guys thing the reason she left them is because they didn't verbalize their love enough when in fact this is usually never true.
2. Buying her flowers and other such gifts.
Bribery isn't going to work when getting your girlfriend back. That's actually how women interpret it you know. As bribery and they think it's pathetic. Save the flowers for the relationship; not the breakup.
3. Acting depressed and sad in order to make her feel sorry for you.
Acting like a little puppy dog isn't going to win you any points either. This just makes you look desperate and thus pushes her further and further away from you. Man up and pull yourself together.
4. Generally being overly nice in order to "win her over".
Again, acting overly nice will be interpreted by your ex as you being a little puppy dog. I'm not saying you should suddenly start acting like a jerk (that won't get you anywhere either). There is a line to be drawn and generally kissing up to your ex girlfriend will only cause her to lose respect for you.
5. Using guilt to get her back. Kids, money, etc.
I see a lot of guys trying to manipulate their ex girlfriends with kids, money and other such things. You can make her feel as guilty as you want but that will not get back the one thing you need in droves (attraction). This type of behavior will only make her resent you all the more.
6. Attempting to persuade her with reason and logic to get back with you.
Us men are very logical creatures. We think that everything can be fixed logically. Attempting to persuade your ex girlfriend to go back out with you (for whatever reason) will only push her away. She doesn't want to hear logic, she wants to feel emotion. Emotion is the key.
7. Doing absolutely nothing.
And finally, doing absolutely nothing will definitely ensure your failure. There are very specific steps you can follow to get your ex girlfriend back. These steps are based on advanced female psychology.
To sum everything up, you can't use cheap manipulation that women can see right though when attempting to get your ex back. Buying her presents, using guilt, making her feel sorry for you, telling her you love her (with an agenda), using logic and reason (when women will only respond to emotion). Don't feel bad though; almost every guy going through a breakup does
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Learn to Be a Caring Person
If you do not want to care about the people in your lives, then your relationships are doomed to fail. Do you really believe that someone wants to marry you - just to feed your selfish needs with nothing in return? No emotionally healthy woman marries to have someone else 'pay the bills.'
I once heard a public speaker say 'if you want to know why your relationships are not working - look in the mirror.'
This is so true. If you are not attracting emotionally healthy people, then you are not emotionally healthy. Before trying to 'fix' the other person - try fixing yourself.
The School of Caring: Learning to Be a Caring Person
It is a loaded question, but one that will determine how you deal with others, particularly with the women you wish to get to know better, date, and eventually enjoy romantic times with. Early in our dating lives, the object is very often about your needs. You are interested in spending time with the most beautiful, sexy, and exciting women you can find and maybe getting as far as the bedroom if you can.
In that way, early courting and seducing is all about the joy of sexual conquest, and there is a pleasure to that. But over time, you will begin to desire more than that. You will notice that the relationships you are in that work well for those self-centered goals are not very satisfying in other, more meaningful ways. They do not tend to last very long and, to be brutally honest, you are spending time with girls with the same values you used to hook up with them, and those values are not very uplifting in the long run.
So what we really want is those same traits in a woman that we had when we were just about conquest, but somehow more as well. We want our women to always be beautiful and sexy and touch us in that way. But the ideal would be that she is also a woman of values, of sensitivity, of thought and feeling so you can continue to see her and discover the complex woman in her . . . all the while enjoying the thrills that you had during the sexual conquest phase.
That is a tall order. But it is not impossible. You will have to change the types of women you approach and flirt with, your flirting style, and your method and plans in the early dates with the women you meet who seem to fit your new specifications. But those women do exist, and you are on the right track for building relationships that will truly become ones you will treasure and nurture . . . relationships that will much more fit the definition of romance rather than one night stands or affairs.
A Change of Focus
In addition to changing your flirting style, you should begin to alter the list of objectives you use when flirting and picking up women. Women who will be wonderful romances for you are more complex and have greater requirements for you to fill their emotional needs before you can grow close to them. Women approach dating much differently than we do as men. Some of the values that mean a lot to them are . . . - They want to feel you are interested in them. Talk more about them than about yourself. - They want to feel you are faithful and that you will be there for them long into the future. - They want to know you are both strong and manly, but sensitive and gentle with them emotionally and sexually.
They want you to be a caring person. For a woman, the central organ of her romantic life is her heart, not her genitals.
That last one is absolutely the magic lamp for gaining the affection and romance of a beautiful, sexy woman. So when you answered the question at the beginning, did you answer that you are a caring person?
It is time to be honest and, for a lot of us guys, caring and concern for others especially at the emotional level is not our strength. But just like working a muscle to build strength and endurance, it is something that can be enhanced and made better over time. There are things you can do when not with a woman that will make you a more caring person in general. While the suggestions listed in this article may not seem on the surface to be related to dating or romance, they will alter how you think and feel and make you a more caring, compassionate, and empathic person. This, in turn, will be reflected during your time with your lover, and the outcome will be a stronger, healthier, more satisfying and romantic relationship.
Concern for Animals
When child psychologists or parents want to improve a childs ability to care for others, they often use a pet to help with that. You can use that impulse to care for a pet to expand this part of your personality, too. If you do not have a pet, now is the time to think about getting one.
Get a pet that you can have a relationship with, such as a dog or a cat. A goldfish cannot communicate with you very well. If you have a feeling for a certain kind of animal, use that to move you toward caring for the animal. It is always best to start out with a young animal a puppy or a kitten because they are so needy and responsive. At the same time, they are very affectionate and will bond to you, so you will begin to get both the feeling of warmth that caring for others brings, as well as the rewards.
Make time for your pet. Be patient when they make mistakes and think of them as a member of your family. At times you will forget you are doing this to help you be a better boyfriend, and that is good. That means you are genuinely becoming a caring person, not just manipulating yourself so you can make more progress with the ladies.
Caring for Humans
Now you can expand your feelings of concern and desire to help others to the disadvantaged in society. If you want to really jump start your emotional side toward caring, go and visit a childrens hospital and take the kids some presents. Your heart will be tugged by how adorable and yet how needy they are and, as with the pet, they will reward you with affection and gratitude, which will accelerate you toward becoming an even more caring individual.
You can take the momentum you got from that visit and expand your caring concern for the homeless, for victims of disasters overseas, or for orphans. If you would like to become involved in one of the organizations that lets you send a small amount of money to an orphan and exchange letters and pictures with them too, that will make this side of you grow and become more feeling.
You are Not a Wimp
During this time, as you find new emotions beginning to spring up inside you, you may feel you are becoming soft or less manly. In fact, the opposite is true. Your ability to feel and care for others is the height of manliness. It will play a major, all-important role down the road when you become a father and husband.
Moreover, the ability to be tender, to nurture and pamper someone you care about, will naturally come out in your tender times with your lover. She will notice it, and just as the pets and the children poured love back to you, so will your sweetheart. That loving will be romantic, intimate, and exciting in a way you never could achieve before when all you wanted to do was have short term thrills with sexy babes.
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Healthy Aging and Marriage
I don't really do compatability tests. You are either interested in creating a relationship, or you just want to manipulate others to get your own way. But, aging can cause problems. What happens if one person has a stroke? The other person may be forced into a caregiver's roll they are not prepared to handle. After all - not all of use are born nurses.
There are so many health problems that can destroy a marriage, leaving one person a widower while the other is still alive. I hope you never understand the truth behind that statement.
Healthy Aging and Marriage
Aging is a fact of life; nothing that we do or say can really change this fact. As we all get older, our health is going to change as well; hopefully good health stays with our families and loved ones as long as possible, but sometimes we just aren't that lucky, and fate deals us a different hand than we expected. What exactly are we supposed to do? How should we deal with it?
Some people deal with aging better than others. Are you someone who wants to age gracefully or are you going to put up a fight? Is having your first grey hair or losing your last hair on your head the end of the world or is it going to be a day that you remember for the rest of your life?
If you have a spouse or long-term partner, you may notice that they are growing older. We often don't notice that we are getting older ourselves. In your partner you might see it on the number of hairs in his comb; the number of pairs of pants that she can't get into; or the new wrinkle that she had whenever she smiles is now on her face all the time now, even when she isn't smiling.
I have one client who is having a disagreement on what they think is the best way to age. Take a look at their story, and tell me what you think.
Bob and Kelly
Bob and Kelly have been married for more years than Kelly would admit it. In fact, if you subtracted the years that they were married from how old Kelly claims she is, she and Bob would have gotten married when Kelly was only 12. Kelly goes to the spa every week, won't step outside the door without a hat for fear of wrinkles and wants to get cosmetic surgery to make her face and body look even younger.
Bob says that she loves Kelly for the way that she is, and that she doesn't want her to change the way she looks too drastically, especially with something that has risks involved with it and could possibly be dangerous.
What do you think about this? Have you or your friends had an experience like this, where one person in the couple wants to stay young, while the other wants to just let nature take your course? This may not just include getting plastic surgery done or spa days, but can include getting a toupee, buying a fast sports car on your 50th birthday, dating a much younger man (or woman), or just trying to hang out more with your adult children and their friends.
If you are worried about the way that you are aging, one thing that might help is the Intimacy Paradox. This paradox is something that I've been sharing with my private clients for years. The principle is pretty easy to understand, and says that if you want to have a great marriage, you need to accept yourself 100% and you need to accept your partner 100% for who they are right now. If you plan on changing yourself or your partner when you (or they) don't want to, you will end up having resentment in your relationship.
Do you think that the Intimacy Paradox would work in Bob and Kelly's relationship? Would it work in yours? 100% acceptance of yourself and your partner may seem like it is difficult to do; what do you think that the most difficult thing to accept about your partner is going to be? Is there something that you don't think that you could accept about your partner?
In this case study, another of my couples that I help out is having problems with health and aging. See if you can relate to them, and see if you have had these problems or if can envision having these problems in the future.
Sally and Marty
Sally and Marty aren't an old couple. They got married young, had children pretty early, and now are in their early 50s. Recently, their youngest child just left for college, so now it is just the two of them at home. They don't really know what to do with all of their time; before, they were always watching their children's ball games, going shopping with them, or just having others at the dinner table to help liven up the conversation.
They aren't really having a problem with anything in their marriage life, but they don't have really anything to talk about. They have never had this much time alone, and don't know what to do with the next thirty years of their life together.
If this has happened to you, what did you and your partner do that helped? Can you imagine this happening to you? What should Sally and Marty do to solve this?
One thing that can help couples in their marriage when they are having problems that are related to health and aging is to study their past. If you've watched your parents and other friends and seen how they dealt with aging, you might be able to get clues to how you will age. We all form our beliefs off of our observations that we make from the time we are young to the present day. Our beliefs can change over time, but usually we have a lot of the beliefs that our parents gave to us (either from mimicking them or from doing the exact opposite of what they did). I outline all of the different types of Marriage Blueprints that couples can have; find out which one you belong to.
Wild Things can sometimes have a problem with aging and health problems, because they are so active in their life; when they get older, they are often frustrated when life starts slowing down on them. Wild Things live life while they can, and can't wait to tell their grandchildren stories of how they did some wild things.
If you are a Blissmate, you are a lot like Wild Things, in that you want to have a lot of new experiences, but at the same time, you want to experience these things with your spouse. When one of you has to take a break at a certain activity for whatever reason, it usually sidelines the other member of the couple.
Pilgrims are really interested in something in their life, and usually put all of their passion and life into this one topic. Health and aging problems can be really frustrating for this group of people, but at the same time, Pilgrims usually get closer to their goals with age.
Like Sally and Marty, the Big Heart Family followers usually get empty nest syndrome. Family is the most important thing to these people, and when everyone moves out of the house, they are really depressed and don't know what to do with their lives.
Pioneers, who are duty bound, want to make sure that they fulfill their duty. If their partner is ill, they will want to take care of them, because of this duty. What in interesting about pioneers is that they often have a cause that they tend to serve, but they are very loyal and will drop everything for their partner.
Visionary families are also very oriented on a goal, and want to share this vision with their spouses. Visionaries often want to go to new places to further their vision, and are often very disappointed if they don't get to fulfill their dreams due to aging or health issues.
The Golden Rule Family of marriage blueprints considers fairness and equality to be number one. When they are young, the golden rulers believe that old people should be respected, and when they age, they expect to be treated well themselves.
The eighth of the Marriage Blueprints is the Royal Family. This blueprint is one that makes social status really important; with age, social status grows and then declines when you are too old to keep up your social status by getting your face out there. Aging is really hard for the Royal Family because their whole life is based on how people perceive them.
What Marriage Blueprint are you and your spouse? Do you think that the way that you view your health and aging is in synch with the way that your Marriage Blueprint does? What tips and hints do you have for getting older that have helped your marriage? What is the most difficult thing about aging, and what scares you the most?
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Monday, March 17, 2008
Emotional Triggers in Relationships
Emotional Triggers in Relationships
Most of the anxiety and frustration that exists in relationships can be avoided. The key is to be aware of the emotional triggers that each and every one of us possesses. Unfortunately, the majority of people will wait until these triggers have had their strongest impact and, not knowing how to deal with them, find themselves either fighting with their significant other - or just running away.
It doesn't have to be this way. Once you learn to recognize the emotional triggers that have the potential to set you or (or the other person), you've already got an advantage. The key here is recognize them for what they are and not give them the unnecessary power that too many people do. Everyone has these "buttons" and, quite frankly, if other people know what yours are, you could be very susceptible to manipulation. Perhaps you already have experienced a hint of this?
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Our Emotional Triggers
Our Emotional Triggers
'Anger', the pronunciation of this word conjures up fearful and unpleasant images in our mind; an emotion which we generally associate with senses of abuse, hurt, violence and destruction. The symptoms of anger are not just to be found in our emotions, but also in our bodies, mind and behavior as well.
Now, the exact nature of an individual's response to the hurts and frustrations of their lives varies from person to person. There are three basic things which can affect to an outburst of our anger. They are:
1.Threat, hurt, violence and frustration and their extent.
2.Damage or frustration and there causes.
3.The likelihood of the trigger to anger: for example, a British may react phlegmatically to a late train, than the people who live in countries where trains are invariably late.
Effects:
Let us take a quick glance of what bodily changes take place, when the emotion of anger arouses us physically:
1.Respiration deepens.
2.The heart beats more rapidly.
3.Blood pressure rises.
4.The pupils dilate.
5.The digestive processes are suspended.
6.The glucose is freed from the reserves in our liver.
7.The spleen contracts and discharges its content of concentrated corpuscles.
8.Cortisol production is increased in order to depress the immune system.
Thus, a state of anger very obviously, raises our blood pressure and exerts an unnatural strain on our body and the internal organs. Research done over the last 20 years show that serious damage definitely occurs if we allow ourselves to be hyper, and keep our bodies working at emergency levels for long period. Moreover suppressed and sustained anger can damage our health seriously. From research evidences till date, it has been proved that sustaining psychological state of anger can:
1.Cause digestive disorders such as ulcers and gastritis.
2.Create hypertension.
3.Raise cholesterol levels.
4.Damage and block arteries.
5.Aggravate heart disease.
6.Intensify pain.
7.Exacerbate bowel conditions such as colitis.
8.Create headaches.
9.Contribute to inflammatory disorders of muscles.
10.Hinder our recovery from major traumas.
11.Cause serious illness such as cancer and aids.
It is very commonly heard that people generally blame their physical health and its condition for the outburst of the emotions. But this should be stopped. Blaming our bodies for the outburst of our anger must be stopped genuinely. Health conditions only assist us in managing our emotions. Our bodies merely act as vessels for containing and as vehicles for expressing our emotions at various stages of life - and we, as civilized and literate human beings can very well let our head rule over our body and emotions.
Abhishek is the owner of MysticBoard.com.
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Friday, March 14, 2008
Emotions As Information
I once asked a professional how to handle emotions. They looked at me and said 'grow up.'
At first I was offended, then I realized that they were right. Emotional outburst are a child's way of handing situations they have no control over. They are used to 'demand' attention from adults in a way that ensures the child's survival.
Adults learn how to solve problems, manage stress, and nurture relationships. They master the art of controlling their emotions and using cognitive thinking over emotional outbursts to ensure their survival.
Emotions As Information
When you were a small child, your painful emotions may have felt too overwhelming to feel. If you experienced physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, your little body was not big enough to manage the painful feelings. If you were neglected, unseen, misunderstood, invaded, smothered, shamed or ridiculed, it may have felt too painful to manage. If you were a highly sensitive child with parents who did not understand high sensitivity, you may have felt too much emotion to handle. You might have had to learn ways of not feeling so much emotion.
What did you learn to do as a child and adolescent to manage your feelings?
* Did you learn to numb out, taking your focus out of your body and into your head, thinking rather than feeling?
* Did you learn to use food, alcohol or drugs to numb out?
* Did you learn to numb out in front of the TV or computer?
* Did you learn to leave your body or to dissociate in other ways?
* Did you learn to live in fantasy or daydreams to not be present in your body?
* Did you learn to be a perfectionist, an overachiever, always being busy - doing rather than feeling?
* Did you learn to get angry rather than feel the pain of the loneliness, heartache and helplessness?
* Did you learn to focus on what was going on with others rather than on your own feelings? Did you learn to absorb others' feelings and be there to help them as a way to avoid your own pain?
* Did you learn positive addictions, such as reading or sports, to avoid your feelings?
Those of us who did not receive the love we needed had to find various ways of managing the pain. This was a necessary part of our survival.
However, as adults, avoiding feelings has many negative consequences. Your feelings are your inner guidance system. Your feelings instantly give you much vital information.
* Your painful feelings, such as fear, anxiety, emptiness, aloneness, depression, hurt, anger, jealousy, guilt and shame, are letting you know that you are thinking thoughts that are not true - that are out of alignment with what is in your highest good, or that you are behaving in ways that are harmful to you.
* Your loneliness around another person may be letting you know that the person's heart is closed.
* Your confusion around what another person is saying or doing may be letting you know that the person is lying.
* Your discomfort around another person may be letting you know that the other person is not safe to be around.
* Your inner peace, joy and fulfillment are letting you know that your thoughts and behavior are supporting your highest good.
As adults, many of our emotions come from our thoughts. If you think a thought such as "I am not good enough, " you will feel anxious or depressed. These painful feelings are your inner guidance system telling you that the thought is a lie. If you then do something to avoid feeling the anxiety or depression, you are not getting the very important information that your feelings are giving you, and you are abandoning yourself. This self- abandonment - avoiding your feelings and the information that your painful feelings are giving you - leads to addictive behavior.
As a child, others may have been causing your painful feelings. As an adult, you are generally the cause of your pain - by judging yourself, neglecting your feelings, and making others responsible for your pain and joy. As an adult, it is your own self-abandonment that is often the cause of your pain.
As an adult, you CAN learn to manage your painful feelings by opening to learning about the information that your feelings are giving you, and by learning to access your inner higher wisdom to bring in the truth and love to yourself. You will know that you are thinking and behaving in ways that support your highest good when you feel inner peace and joy.
The information your emotions are always giving you is vital for your health and wellbeing. Why not start today to attend to your emotions rather than avoid them?
aret Paul, Ph.D. best-selling author of eight books, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com/ mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
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Anger And Self Esteem
One of the saddest things is the fact that almost all trauma in our lives comes back to haunt us in the form of anger. There are many people who are good people but they cannot maintain a long term relationship because they are unable to manage their anger.
There is hope. There are two types of anger. The fear of being hurt. And, selfish manipulation of others. Yes, you noticed that there is no 'good' anger. You are never allowed to hurt another person or bully them. Losing control of your anger does more damage to yourself than it ever does to others.
The fear of being hurt is actually the easiest type to overcome. Selfish anger is hard, because it means you need to stop being selfish. One person wrote a book that said they don't waste time with selfish people who have anger issues. They said that anyone can overcome a selfish (narcissistic) anger problem in 15 minutes if they choose to.
Anger And Self Esteem
It is often heard people admitting that they keep even minor feelings or irritation well-hidden because they are ashamed of it. As most people's ideas of 'goodness' include benevolence, tolerance, generosity and kindliness, angry or negative feelings are often banished to the private world of fantasy and dreams.
These can, of course, be very natural and safe healing abodes for difficult feelings - as long as we do not hate ourselves for actually experiencing them there. But how good do we ourselves feel when we are carrying in our heads awful things we would like to do, or dreamed last night of doing, to get our own back on someone who have hurt us? It is very certain, that many people mind it excruciatingly difficult to confess their angry feeling because they are somehow convinced of the fact that if an outburst takes place, then the people around them will reject them out of fear and loathing.
Similarly, many people have also admitted that they are gaining vicarious from books, films and plays where anger is expressed, sometimes quite horrifically and destructively. They are worried that their interest proves that at some deep level they are just as evil and violent as the fictitious characters, and not only that, if they were to realize their anger, they would be just as destructive themselves.
Many other people have their self esteem damaged because they have actually experienced disapproval and rejection in direct response to the expression of their anger. If this happens frequently, it can make them feel very despairing about themselves, because they begin to wonder if they will ever be capable of loving or being loved, or of achieving success.
There are two main reasons why the expression of anger can be followed by disapproval or rejection:
1.The receptionists themselves have such low self-esteem or are so stressed that they themselves are not able to cope up with the anger which is being directed at them.
2.The anger has been expressed in a threatening or unjust manner.
So now, it is upon us to identify which if these two reasons is involved, is vitally important, because the first reason is neither the fault nor the responsibility of the angry person. But the second one is definitely our concern and we do have the power to do something about it. We can obviously learn to manage our anger more assertively. If we sincerely try it out, then we will see the difference soon. It will not only improve our personal relationships but it will also enhance our self esteem.
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Friday, March 07, 2008
How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part Two
How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part Two
In the previous issue as promised, this segment will give you a short-cut, precise, and valuable "12 Step Relationship Recovery Guideline" that will help you look into removing any "hidden" unhealthy relationship toxic buildup that may be unconsciously blocking your blessings.
There is a remarkable Biblical principle, "Ask and it shall be given." But this is not meant to be interpreted just literally. It also implies that you make a psychological and spiritual appeal. In other words, it's not solely the words that come out of your mouth, but also about your frame of mind and behavioral pattern-your thoughts, your feelings, beliefs, and actions.
People may say they want one thing, yet subconsciously their actions and personalities say something completely different. For example, a woman may have gone through a series of harsh and unkind experiences with men in the past and verbally affirms that she wants an ideal mate in the present. Yet, if in fact she has not taken time to cleanse and heal from her old memories and habits, she may, consciously or unconsciously, attract the same type of unworthy men into her life. Or, on the other hand, if a decent man steps into her life, she may not be able to bond with him in a healthy manner because past emotions will keep resurfacing and interfering with their relationship.
However, if she takes the time to first prepare herself mentally and emotionally, she will "ask" for and shall certainly "receive" the healthy love she seeks, and never have to worry about ever being abandoned or deceived again. Here is the "12-Stage Relationship-Recovery Guideline" which you can use as a sliding scale to determine where you are, where you'd like to be, and how soon you'd like to get there:
The 12-Stage Relationship-Recovery Guideline
1. Recognizing that the unhealthy relationship is no good for you
2. Conditioning yourself to get out of it
3. Taking the steps and actually walking out of it
4. Coping with the emotional roller-coaster one day at a time
5. Getting to know yourself (finding out who you are and exactly what you want)
6. Restoring and re-creating yourself (taking back the pieces of your spirit)
7. Empowering and enjoying the new you
8. Wanting and praying for a healthy-minded, compatible mate
9. Meeting and checking him out (letting him into the perimeter of your life)
10. Opening to the possibilities of a new, healthy relationship as you get to know him
11. Removing your self-protective coating as you grow to trust and respect him
12. Enjoying a healthy love match as you grow to love each other
The goal here is to help you heal from the past, so that you will be able to ask for, believe in, receive, and accept the wholesome relationship and marriage you deserve by thoroughly examining and removing the hidden, as well as the readily apparent emotional hindrances that may be barricading your healthy love.
The simple truth is, we do an excellent job of putting on a front before the world. It began from we took that first step onto the threshold of social awareness, where we were conditioned to believe, "Don't let anybody in your business, or have anything over you, and never let a man see who you really are."
This practice has built barricades around the hearts of countless women, resulting in years of celibacy, casual dating, or shallow relationships. And when we experience disappointment from unhealthy relationships, we retreat even further within to an untouchable place in an attempt to bury pain, anger or anguish, which often leads to despondency, depression, and frustration.
How To Close The Old Door, So You Can Start to Restore
Countless women are walking around secretly tucked inside their invisible armor. On the outside, you may seem okay, but no one sees you when you're home alone at nights, crying yourself to sleep because of loneliness and feelings of abandonment. The emotional armor successfully keeps others from getting in, but it also keeps you from getting out. Too many women are prisoners within their own body temples.
And it's confusing. It's confusing because armor is a woman's way of defending herself, yet on the other hand her self-protective wall is holding her captive. Many women have already given up on love; thousands secretly yearn for it; others desperately hope for it; and many are afraid to claim it. This is primarily because they don't know how to trust again, and they haven't been shown how to remove the personal emotional armor. The sacred truth is, the healthy love we crave must first be created within us.
You've got to learn how to let go and let the love of God flow in and through you. Replace your personal armor with the protection of God's love. Ephesians 6:13 in the Bible tell us, "Take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able stand firm [withstand any test in life or love]."
Here's a useful exercise to help you dissolve any personal armor:
EXERCISE: Clearing Out The Emotional Baggage
1. What was your most disappointing relationship in the past?
2. Who has caused you pain (or vice versa)? What happened?
3. How did it make you feel during that time? Why?
4. What did you want to happen in the relationship? What would you have changed?
5. Write a letter to the person (or persons) involved, and tell them every detail of how you were
affected (don't hold back; this is a chance to release your feelings on paper).
6. Looking back now, would you have ended the relationship earlier? If so, when and why? If no, why not?
7. How does it affect your life right now? How do you feel at this moment as you are writing?
8. Adopt this affirmation: "I (your name), am valuable. I deserve healthy friendships, the right relationship, a healthy body, and a great life. I will no longer be deprived of my blessings."
9. Now, tear the letter into tiny bits, and as you tear, affirm, "I now release all painful memories from my mind, my body, my heart, my soul. My life and my spirit are now renewed. I hold no hard feelings, and I feel no more sorrow. I am now free, and something good is about to happen to me!"
10. Repeat Steps 1-9 for each unhealthy relationship you can recall.
Now, that you have completed the second phase of this powerful emotional cleansing series, in the following part, you will conclude with a powerful and fast method to "re-define your life without any unhealthy strife." It's time for a spiritually-empowered and an emotionally-happy you!
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of America's foremost relationship consultants. An award-winning, bestselling author of ten books, she is the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part One
I still remember the pain of being divorced. For me, I was a dutiful wife. Exactly what I was raised to be. Unfortunately, we moved to the city and my husband found more exciting 'fish in the sea.' I felt betrayed, angry, and was horrified by the fact that the government was willing to let him walk away, leaving me at the mercy of lawyers.
I never received alimony or the child support I should have - because my friends were telling me that it was better to take what I could get, instead of getting what you were owed and having the lawyer garnish it for 10 years to recoup their fees.
All together, this left me Broken from my Broken relationship.
How to Mend Fast From a Broken Past Relationship - Part One
This three-part series will show you how to be free of the past so you can love with a new outlook and place a high value on your personal self-worth.
Detrimental romances have left too many women with broken promises, broken spirits, and broken hearts. I encourage you to realize right now that you don't ever have to settle for any unhealthy relationship in which you are the Band-Aid to cover up your mate's wound while neglecting your own emotional scars. Instead, be aware that a healthy relationship is a balanced love in which both partners can be the healing balm to each other when needed.
Do you know what's extremely disheartening and defeating at the same time? Due to the Band-Aid type of bonding, when a woman discovers that a man is no good for her (or even dangerous), she stifles her own feelings and still remains in the unhealthy relationship, or she goes back to him even after she had left him.
These women know that those particular men are emotionally unhealthy mates, and many have specifically told me so either in person at my national relationship seminars, or in the hundreds of emails and letters I receive each month.
Let's look at these two examples:
One woman, the president of a well-know national women's beauty pageant group, told me between heart-wrenching sobs that she was in "emotional bondage" to her disrespectful lover, who not only openly cheated on her each month with a number of her co-workers and casual acquaintances, but also made her abort the baby she had been carrying for him.
Another woman, Vicki (not her real name), a professional telemarketer, found out her live-in lover of two years was an undercover drug dealer who had been hiding his drugs and guns in her apartment. Seven months later, she threw him out. But here's the kicker, she didn't evict him because of his illegal and corrupt dealings; she threw him and his clothes out because his "other woman" came to her house to confront her. She took back her keys and changed the locks, but less than three months later, she changed her mind and took him back.
A year after bringing him into her home again, she admitted, "I feel like my life is caving in on me. I know he's not a good influence for my teenage son, but I can't get him out of my system.
You Must Be Bold to Break the Stronghold
After examining Vicki's case along with several others, I found that in each situation the woman separated from the man physically but not emotionally. In a sense, she was locked into an emotional stronghold. She had not released him from her soul. She shared an indefinable bond with him and that's why she gravitated back to him. And until she released him from her complete self-mind, body, and spirit-she continued to fluctuate emotionally.
It was hard for Vicki at first. But, with time and proper coaching, she finally turned her back on her unsuitable boyfriend for good. I also effectively helped the beauty pageant president in the former example to break the chains of "emotional bondage" with the dysfunctional lover through a twofold method that I will share with you here.
First, I brought to the attention of both women ten specific preprogrammed beliefs that promote fear and keep women in turbulent relationships with wrongly selected mates:
10 Misconceptions That Cause Emotional Deception
1) "There aren't any good men left. I might as well stick with the evil I know."
2) "No one else is going to want me."
3) "So what if he cheated; all men do. 10% of something is better than 100% of nothing."
4) "I can't make it on my own."
5) "If I was doing what I was supposed to, he would not have done it."
6) "What will everyone think?"
7) "As long as he takes care of the bills, I better keep my mouth shut."
8) "My children need a father figure around."
9) "He says he loves me and didn't mean to do it."
10) "I want to leave, but the sex is good."
Second, I provided a useful and effective technique to help them break the negative emotional ties. This method is very important because it helps you explore and discover exactly how someone else may be in control of how you feel about yourself. It will be much easier to disconnect from an emotionally disruptive relationship once you get a clear picture on paper of how much negative power he has over you self-value system.
EXERCISE: Getting the Unhealthy Suitor Out of My System
Set some private time aside to take this seven-point quiz. Don't just answer a quick yes or no then jump to the next question. Spend at least ten minutes on each to work through the deep feelings and beliefs that will be attached to each of your answers:
1) Does he make me feel good about myself? Why, or why not?
2) Do I feel safe with him? Why, or why not?
3) Does he protect me from feeling embarrassed or unfulfilled? Why, or why not?
4) Can I trust him to be faithful? Why, or why not?
5) Do I feel attractive and appreciated when I'm around him? Why, or why not?
6) Do I think he's a kind, caring, and honest person? Why, or why not?
7) Would he be a good role model for children? Why, or why not?
Conclusion: If you've answered no more that you've answered yes, you don't have to second guess. It's time to cut the emotional string with this dysfunctional and unhealthy fling!
In the second part of this series, I will give you a short-cut, precise and valuable 12-Stage Relationship Recovery Guide. We will also look at how to empty relationship baggage by clearing out any "hidden" toxic emotional build-up that may be unconsciously blocking your blessings. Remember always: you deserve the very best!
Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone, on-air psychologist for the former Queen Latifah TV show, is one of America's foremost relationship consultants. An award-winning, bestselling author of ten books, she is the popular relationship columnist for the London-based Pride magazine. For Dr. Grace's relationship books and CDs visit www.myhealthylove.com
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I love shoes, but I broke my toe a few years. I still love shoes but I buy them from different places. I also need one pair that is easy to walk on without putting pressure on the foot that doesn't balance.
There are some places I can get inserts for my shoes.
OurHealthNetwork.com's has an exclusive line of styles of custom-made orthotic sandals and inserts that provide relief to people who suffer from foot pain. An inserts caters to custoemer's lifestyles and shoe styles. I don't think it will let me wear my granny boots again, but it does let me wear some of my expensive shoes again.
Custom shoe inserts designed by OurHealthNetwork.com (http://www.OurHealthNetwork.com) treat problems like runner's knee, shin splints, plantar fasciitis, heel spurs, ball of foot pain, heel pain, and common medical conditions. Today's are now made to fit worn in open-toe sandals and clogs.
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Traditionally custom-made orthotics are designed for shoes, and cannot be worn in sandals or clogs because they slide out. OurHealthNetwork.com’s unique process embeds a pair of orthotics directly inside a customer’s sandals or clogs. “Our customers can now enjoy the great ‘freedom-from-shoes feeling’ they get from sandals and clogs, while still benefiting from true custom-made orthotic therapy,” said Dr. Paul R. Kasdan, OurHealthNetwork.com's medical director.
Customers may choose to send their own sandals to OurHealthNetwork.com to be rebuilt with orthotic footbeds, or they can purchase both sandals and custom made orthotics from the company.
“What is unique about our orthotic line this year is our specialized customization and refurbishing process,” Dr. Kasdan explains. “Our process allows customers who have sandals they love to send them to us, and we'll seamlessly rebuild them with a custom-made orthotic footbed inside each sandal.” Because of this, customers are not limited to the selection of sandals that OurHealthNetwork.com stocks.
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Building Bridges
Most of my friends have been divorced two or three times. I've been divorced once. My new husband has been divorced once. We made a commitment to make our second marriage work. And, it was hard. We were well into our new marriage before we realized that a relationship is a lot of work.
Like most of us, I went into my first marriage with the belief that my husband was suppose to solve all my problems. He entered thinking that I had no purpose on life, except to make him hot and happy. It was a doomed to fail.
Building Bridges
In every relationship, there must be open communication, communication of your dreams, hopes, fears and insecurities. If you cannot communicate with your partner, explore the reasons why, right from the outset. Don't leave it until it's too late. Don't leave your feelings bottled up until you implode in frustration, or the feelings spill over and cause irreparable damage to your relationship.
The discussions should be conducted over dinner, a stroll in the park or any relaxed setting. They should never be conducted via sms or even a phone call. If the other party is afraid to meet you, or is avoiding you because of his/her fear of confrontation, give him/her a chance to come to terms with the inevitable. But if he/she consistently refuses to confront the issues at stake, then it is reasonable for you to let go, and say, "I would love to discuss our relationship with you, so as to understand you better, and so you can understand my point of view better. I have given you the space for a meaningful discussion, but each time, you pull away. Can I help in any way?" If that person still pulls away, then walk away from the relationship and wish him/her all the best. Nobody is right or wrong. It's just the wrong time and wrong place.
Of course, it's easier said than done. Letting go when the time is ripe comes with experience. Rest assured that in time to come, you too can let go and still have peace of mind.
Women tend to have difficulties letting go, and there are myriad reasons for this. Some feel afraid they may never find the "right one", and so they settle for less. Some feel intense guilt about abandoning their "baby".
But the best thing you could do for someone you love, is to let go of that person. If it's meant to be, that person will come back to you some day, and take you in his arms, have a stroll with you in the park, and let you lean on his shoulders, making you feel safe and secure. I would have done the his/her thing except, it's not really a woman's role, is it?
Leona Lo is the author of "From Leonard to Leona: A Singapore Transsexual's Journey to Womanhood". Log on to www.leonalo.com for more information about the author
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My Wife Has Lost Her Desire for Sex and Intimacy: a Story for Men…
I read this before. It maybe the reason why younger women do like older men. When I learned this, I had a chat with my husband. I also learned that we are responsible for our own happiness. Now, instead of feeling hurt, my husband and I tell each other what we want. We will tell our partner when 'you hurt me.'
It is very hard to start, but after a while, when both partner learns that 'you get what you give' our ability to communicate improved.
My Wife Has Lost Her Desire for Sex
It usually goes something like this…
They meet and start dating in high-school – or in some cases, in college. After graduation, they marry.
She goes to work in a lower-end job – something like teaching – which she enjoys to some extent – but it isn’t her “everything”.
He, enters into some kind of mid-range job – and the “potential” of a great career looms clearly before him.
And of course, he has his hobbies and the things he does with his friends…golf, motorcycles, fishing, racing, and so on.
Along the way, children come along – along with the corresponding bigger cars, house, etc.
In the morning, as he leaves for work, the man kisses his wife goodbye and when he gets home, he hugs her and tells her he deeply loves her.
Time speeds by…
Occasionally, the wife complains to her husband that she feels like her and the children are taking a back seat to his work and hobbies. And, for a time, he’ll “cut back” – just long enough for the “storm” to “blow over” and then he’s back to “life as usual”.
Besides, the man knows that he loves his wife and children and so he doesn’t feel that his wife’s concerns are justifiable.
More time speeds by…
And, what with all of his work and hobbies, it’s hard for the man to find enough time to be able to devote any significant time to his marriage relationship.
Every so often, another “storm” blows up…
The wife gets depressed.
She goes through emotional “hard times” for no apparent reason.
But, they talk and the wife tells the husband that she doesn’t feel like she’s a priority to him – although she readily admits that he is a good husband and father. Not only that, she tells him that she understands how important his career is and how important it is for him to continue “climbing the ladder of success”.
And so after talking, the storm seems to blow over and everything appears to be ok…
And since by his wife’s own admission, the man is a “good” husband and father, he just continues on with life as he knows it – work and hobbies, work and hobbies, work and hobbies.
Then five, sometimes ten, oftentimes fifteen or twenty years later, the woman “surprises” the husband with the “news” that she no longer loves him and that she wants out of the marriage.
It’s usually at that point that the husband is awakened to the fact for all of this time, he has been a priority to his wife while she has NOT been a priority to him and that she “cohabitated” in that lonely existence for as long as she possibly could – and now she doesn’t even want the marriage – let alone want the marriage to work.
The husband foolishly and mistakenly assumed that his wife would just always love him – without any maintenance or effort on his part – as he enjoyed life doing his own thing.
And now, more than anything, the husband wants the marriage to work out…and she doesn’t…
For too long, HE has put HIMSELF first…and SHE too has put him and the children first…
For too long, HE has done whatever he wanted to make himself happy…and SHE too has done whatever it took to make him happy…
For too long, the wife has put herself aside as she tries to make sure her husband got the things he wanted.
For too long, the wife has supported the man in his happiness and success. On the other hand, the man has given little to no support to his wife for her happiness and success.
Through the years, the wife would occasionally attempt to engage in something she was interested in – and she would quickly run into the “dark cloud” of the man’s displeasure for having to watch the kids or sacrifice his own interests and needs – and so, she would once again, set her needs and interests aside.
She suppressed “herself” and that lack of “expression” began to build – building like toxins and waste in an unhealthy body…
Now, she has reached the point where she is so emotionally shut down that short of a Divine miracle, the relationship is beyond repair.
The fact is, the wife is done with the man and his selfishness.
Ironically, now that the man realizes he is losing her, he wants nothing but his wife.
Now, the husband wants his wife to “communicate” her feelings.
Now, he wants her to “talk about” her needs and interests.
Now, she’s not interested.
Why should she be?
For all those years prior, HE wasn’t interested in really listening to and attending to her emotions, desires, and needs!
He was only interested in “listening” just long enough for her to shut up, get over her emotional spell (or as he really felt, her emotional weakness), and leave him alone so he could go on doing his own thing.
Why should she now believe that he cares about her feelings, desires, and needs?
Why should she now believe that he will actually make a permanent change – one where she is a priority in his life?
After all, his mode of operation for the entire marriage has been to “gloss” over her feelings, desires, and needs.
So, why should she put herself in a vulnerable position again?
Why should she go back into a position where her feelings get crushed all over again?
After all, his attitude was always one of, “This will all blow over. She’ll get over it.”
It was her unattended feelings, desires, and needs that caused all those “storms to blow up” through the years and every time, after the “clouds” cleared away, he was his same old unchanged self.
And each time this happened, the man unknowingly twisted an invisible dagger deeper and deeper into the woman’s heart that left HER feeling number than the time before.
Until finally, as it pertains to this man, her heart is “dead”. She’s “stone cold”. Her love is gone…her heart is gone…she’s gone.
There is ZERO desire in her heart to “try” anymore.
She has ZERO interest in “cohabitating” with a “kid” in a man’s body who gets all the toys and has all the fun while she sits on the sidelines lonely, unhappy, and unfulfilled.
In fact, she has ZERO tolerance for even one more hour of being alone while her supposed-to-be-husband is off “making the boss happy” or “doing his weekend thing with his buddies”.
Of course, there were “signs” all along the way…
But, in all of his “rambunctious energy”, the man blew right past them and ignored them…
At least, most of them…
One of them was kind of hard for him to ignore…
The affection, intimacy, and sex became less and less frequent.
Early on in their marriage, it was a common thing for the man to hold her or to touch her hair or to kiss her and even to initiate sex – and she always responded and reciprocated.
But, as time went on, he still did these things but she slowly stopped responding and reciprocating.
Unfortunately, as her needs continued to go unnoticed and unmet, he “barreled on down the road” – turning to the comfort and enjoyment found in his work, career, friends, and hobbies.
Sadly, when they talk now, it’s through attorneys.
What about YOUR marriage?
My hope is that things aren’t quite this far gone for you yet. My hope is that there’s still a chance you can turn things for the better in your marriage.
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Tuesday, March 04, 2008
Frequent Sex and Good Health
Sex has anti aging properties. It is something that many people enjoy - and others just 'don't get it.' Sex is intimate. It should be a shared experience between two people. Unfortunately, many people over 40 have warped ideas of what sex is, or should be. To make matters worse, they are afraid to explore their sexuality. There is nothing taboo with sex - it is something personal and intimate to be shared between two people in love.
Frequent Sex and Good Health
Individuals engaged in active lifestyles like exercising, eating right foods, and taking vitamins should also involve frequent sex in their health regimen. While the degree of sexual activity in one's health is not a principal topic of research, many studies suggest that safe sex can do wonders for one's overall health. Safe sex practiced in a loving, intimate relationship has numerous health benefits like improved cholesterol levels and increased blood circulation. It also encourages the flow of testosterone, a hormone that plays an important role in the immune system.
Sexual intercourse burns about 200 calories, the same number of calories can be achieved by spending 15 minutes in a treadmill. In addition, sex encourages the production of endorphins, the body natural painkiller. These substances, enables a state of bliss and frees people from stress and anxiety. These factors can lead to feelings of happiness, greater health and may slowdown the aging process. An active sex life may lead to improved health and enable people to live longer and happier lives.
For Him
A medical study published by Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA), found out that frequent ejaculation resulting from sexual activity may help protect the prostate from cancer. This finding supports a smaller study in Australia from 2003 that found out that men in 20's who ejaculated more than five times a week were less likely to developing prostate cancer than their counterparts who ejaculated four to seven times a month. Specialists add that ejaculating regularly might lower the risk of cancer because cancer-causing substances are flushed out of the body in the seminal fluid instead of being trapped in the prostate. In addition, researchers in Queens University concluded that by having sex three or more times a week, men may cut heart attack or stroke rates by almost half. However, having sex with multiple partners may raise a man's risk of prostate cancer to up to 40% because his the risk of contracting sexual infection increases.
For Her
Sexual activity may also help prevent endometriosis, a common gynecological condition that affects about 89 million women around the world. This condition occurs when the tissue lining inside a woman's uterus grown in other places like the ovaries or the fallopian tube. This growth can cause pelvic pain and may lead to infertility. A study by the journal of Gynecologic and Obstetric Investigation, concluded that women who were sexually active during their menstruation were 15 times less likely to develop endometriosis than women who abstained from sex during periods. The contractions of the uterus during orgasm may help flush away menstrual debris out of the uterus. Sexual activity among women also prompts the production of estrogen which can act as a painkiller and reduce the pain of Pre Menstrual Syndrome (PMS).
Sexual intercourse is not just the insertion of a man's erect penis into a woman's vagina. It is a process of physical intimacy that strengthens the bond among lovers. Understanding safe sex and sex within marriage may lead to improved health and fruitful marriages.
francis arbes
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Friday, February 29, 2008
SeDona Method to Emotional Wellness
Empowerment is the key. Not everyone can manage the cost of a ife coach, that is why I often encourage them to take a look at other options. There are several methods of self enlightnement that include ego awareness, and presence awareness.
Is The Sedona Method a Tool for Spiritual Enlightenment?
The Sedona Method is a simple, technique that shows people how to uncover their natural ability to let go. It shows them how to abandon the tendencies that cause people to flee from freedom (emotional health) as opposed to embracing it.
The Sedona Method shows you how to Transcend the ego
The Sedona Method helps people lessen the power of the “ego” and “pain body,” which refers to the thoughts and emotions generated by subconscious programming. It is all those negative things that you believe to be right, but which ruin your life. Unfortunately for many people, their negative beliefs are only 'right' in their mind. Or, to put it another way - you are only fooling yourself.
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