I wrote a few days ago about research that tested the relationship between happiness and strokes. I mentioned that the test group were asked questions. Since then I found the list of questions. I do not have permission to post them, so I made a link to their mood questions.
I am a firm believer that to live a long happy life you need to foster the relationships in your family, whether the people are nice or not. This has nothing to do with what people deserve, but the psycologicl effect that being a good person has on you.
You must also continue to learn, and continue to feel useful. That is why I spend so much time chatting about work at home ventures, and include links to my small business blogs.
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Thursday, February 28, 2008
Are You Happy?
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I completely agree with you. I'm struggling with creating good relationships with someone in my family right now and even though the situation is not my fault, it is drastically affecting my overall mood.
You have my total understanding. My sister has hated me for 18 years. We have not had a family Christmas with everyone together in that time. The 'kick' is - No one knows why. We've all tried to resolve this situation.
I am not the only one in my sister's 'bad books.' She is astranged from her husband who almost bankrupted himself giving her a 'goat farm' because that was her dream. (farming goats?) The venture would have worked except that she wouldn't send any baby goats to the market.
I was angry at her for almost 10 years. Then I realized that I was only hurting myself. Now, we have a family Christmas with my parents, with no mention of my sister.
We learned to 'work around' her problems. But, resolution isn't easy. I know people in the same situation who are constantly forced to 'fix it' - putting them in the position of becoming the victim of emotional abuse.
You are lucky. The 'fight' is not a game or power/control issue for your family member. Struggling is a good word as it means progress.
But, always remember that 'you are important.' Never dismiss your own emotional well being to meet the family's overal goals and expectations.
Let me know how you find balance in this situation.
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